开心秘诀？英文双语对照

只需要知道这3个秘密你就能让自己保持开心。

第一个秘密，原谅自己。

在犯错时，会认为自己太笨，怎么这么不小心又犯错了；在遭遇挫折时备受打击，抱怨为什么别人的生活工作一帆风顺，而自己总是处处不顺；在努力了却得不到回报时，我们会觉得不公平，自己运气不好，是谁谁谁又在给自己使绊子。

嘿，请停止这样的抱怨和想法，亲爱的这不是你的错。生活本就艰难了，自我责备可带不来幸福、成功、健康和好日子。要学会原谅自己，和自己和解。

为什么是原谅呢？不努力去原谅自己时，就会背负太多沉重的负担，而这种负担会加重我们内心的自我批评。当批评习惯时，指责也会不断地从内心冒出来，从而让我们处于一种负面的恶性循环的状态中。

学会原谅，卸下负担，轻松前行。记住这个咒语“我是一个凡人，我犯了一个错误。”。因为是凡人，凡人会犯错是很正常的事。犯错并不意味着不好，相反现在的每一次犯错只为了将来少犯错或者不犯错。

学会原谅自己的错误并不意味着不重视，而是从另外一个角度看问题，一味地自责并不能解决问题。既然改变不了就先接受，然后再找原因和方法来弥补过失。

第二个秘密，善待自己。

格伦农说：生活是艰难的。并不是因为我们过错了生活，而是因为生活本身就很艰难。在艰难的生活中学会善待自己，对自己好一点，只有对自己好了才能更好的对他人。

很多时候我们顾忌的太多，会经常想着对他人好一点这样他人也会对我们好一点。然而现实总会给予相反的答案，善待他人，他人不一定会善待你。有的人会将你的善待当做一种习惯觉得你本该如此，却忘了别人的善待是一种情分而非本分。

在这一生中有人来有人走，而陪伴我们最久的终究是自己，对自己好一点，而不是生活的过程中对他人好忘记对自己好。

从好好吃饭睡觉开始对自己，保证充足的睡眠让自己处于一个良好的状态中，吃得健康一些，搭配好营养，让胃处于一种健康的状态。吃好睡好后也记得给自己的精神世界补充弹药。让阅读帮助我们增长更多的见识，让书写帮助我们更好地表达自己，让旅行带我们看看这广阔的世界。

从点滴开始善待自己，做好自己这个角色才能扮演好其他角色。

第三个秘密，取悦自己。

你不必为别人的感情负责，也不必为他人的错误埋单。

我们不必在制定规划时，帮助别人，所有的事都自己扛。不知你身边是否有这样的人，总是不忍心拒绝别人而让自己忙碌不堪，加班至深夜；为了讨好他人，做些本不是自己的工作，最后还吃力不讨好；为了照顾大家的要求和感受而委屈自己，忽略内心真正的感受。

相信我们身边会有很多这样的讨好型人存在，他们平凡而不平庸，他们照顾了其他人的感受而忽略自己的需要。

很多时候不必如此，先取悦自己，自私一点又有何妨，毕竟漫漫人生路，要让自己过得舒坦一些。

面对别人的看法时，别往心里去。有时候他人的想法并没有那么重要，重要的是我们自己怎么想。越是在意他人的看法越会让自己自卑和自责，坦荡一点、想开一点、淡然一点。

取悦他人前，先取悦自己，因为你才是最重要的那一个人。在很多人的认知里会觉得父母、孩子、爱人和朋友重要，为了他们扮演好儿女、父母、爱人和朋友的角色，忘记自己本该有的样子。可以如果连我们自己本身的角色都扮演不好，又如何能扮演好其他角色呢？

Need to know these 3 secrets only you can let yourself keep happy.

The first secret, excuse oneself.

When err, can think oneself are too stupid, how so erred not carefully again; Have when encountering a setback stricken, complain why the life work of others is plain sailing, and oneself always are not arranged everywhere; In effort finish cannot get redound when, we can feel inequitable, oneself are star-crossed, who be who who is again oneself make stumble child.

Hey, stop such complaining please with idea, dear the fault that this is not you. The life this hard, self-accusation can be taken do not come happy, successful, health and wedding day. Want to learn to excuse oneself, reconcile with oneself.

Why be to excuse? When do not excuse oneself hard, can bear too much and heavy responsibility, and this kind of burden will be aggravating the self-criticism of our heart. When criticism is used to, censure also can appear from the heart ceaselessly come, in letting us be in the condition of a kind of negative vicious circle thereby.

Learn to excuse, debus burden, relaxed before row. Remember this abracadabra " I am laic, I made a mistake. " . Because be laic, laic meeting errs is very regular job. Err and do not mean bad, contrary present every time perhaps does not err only to err less in the future.

The society excuses his mistake and do not mean ignored, see a problem from another angle however, blindly self-condemned insoluble problem. Since cannot be changed,accept first, look for reason and method to make up for error again next.

The 2nd secret, be kind to oneself.

Case human relations farming say: The life is hard. Because,not be our fault the life, because be born,live however itself is very hard. In hard life the society is kind to him, a bit better to oneself, it is good to oneself to have only pair of other people with better ability.

A lot of moment what we scruple is too much, it is a bit better to other to often can think it is a bit better to us that such others also are met. However reality always can give contrary answer, be kind to other, other can not be kind to you certainly. Some people can be kind to yours should do a kind of habit to feel you ought such, forgot others however be kind to is devoir of and rather than of a kind of mutual affection.

In this lifetime somebody comes someone goes, and accompanying our farthest is him after all, a bit better to oneself, be opposite in the process that is not the life other people is good it is good to oneself to forget.

Sleep from very delicious meal begin to be opposite oneself, in making sure enough sleep lets him be in a good position, eat a few more healthily, tie-in good nutrition, let a stomach be in a kind of healthy position. After eating to had slept, also write down so that give oneself inner world compensatory ammunition. Let read a help we increase more experience, let write a help we convey ourselves better, let a journey take us to view this wide world.

Begin to be kind to oneself from the a bit, had done oneself this part ability has acted other part.

The 3rd secret, him please.

You need not be in charge of for the feeling of others, the mistake that also need not be other buries sheet.

When we are establishing a program, help others, all things oneself are carried. Do not know whether is there such person beside you, give the heart to rejects others and always do not make oneself busy can't bear, work overtime to the late night; To please another person, do some of work that is not oneself originally, still take pain to not to please finally; Ask and be experienced to take care of everybody and subdue oneself, the feeling with oversight real heart.

Believe to there can be such a lot of flatteries person to exist beside us, they are ordinary and not commonplace, the feeling that they took care of someone else and him oversight need.

A lot of moment need not such, preferential him Yue, selfishness had might as well again, boundless after all life journey, want to let oneself pass a few more at easely.

When the view that faces others, do not go in past heart. It is so important that occasionally the idea of other is done not have, important is how ourselves thinks. The view that cares about other the more can make him self-abased mix more self-condemned, a bit more magnanimous, think a bit, indifferently a bit.

Before please other, preferential him Yue, because you just are that one the most serious person. Feel in the meeting in the acknowledge of a lot of people parents, child, sweetheart and friend are important, act the part of good children, parents, sweetheart and friend for them, forget oneself ought some appearance. If connect the part of ourselves itself,can act bad, how can have you acted other part again?