1、过早断奶
很多职场妈妈因为上班时间不方便喂奶,晚上睡觉喂奶又影响睡眠质量,进而影响第二天的上班质量。因此,只能在宝宝几个月的时候就断奶。其实,这样对宝宝免疫力的提升以及亲子关系的建立非常不利。
2、把宝宝全权委托给老人或者保姆
上班族比较累,为了有充足的睡眠,很多妈妈把宝宝全权委托给老人或者保姆,包括晚上的时间。因此,有些宝宝和妈妈不亲近。
3、陪孩子的时候不能全心全意
不管多大的宝宝,对于妈妈是否在用心地陪他非常敏感。如果你全心全意,孩子会非常开心和幸福。否则孩子就容易哭闹,实际上这是向妈妈提出的抗议。
4、试图用一堆玩具代替亲子时间
宝宝在小的时候尤其是一岁以内,对现实生活中物品的兴趣远远高于对玩具的兴趣。很多职场妈妈平时没有时间陪孩子,想用玩具弥补一下,结果孩子不买账还是粘着妈妈。孩子就是这样,他更需要的是妈妈,尤其是白天见不到的职场妈妈。
5、轻视育儿知识
以前总说孩子是一张白纸,什么都不懂。近几年西方的育儿书籍到了中国之后,才知道原来孩子有太多自身发展的秘密。他们的发展有他们自身的日程表、敏感期。
在相应的敏感期里,孩子会一直重复一件事情,直到熟练为止。比如他会重复的从高处往下面扔东西,会执著地往容器里放东西,会来来回回地往什么地方藏东西,更会不厌其烦地拣地上的小东西,尽管有些大人觉得很脏。
6、忽视陪孩子户外活动的亲子时间
户外是孩子学习人际交往的基地,人际交往的规矩和原则要大人教给孩子。很多老人或者保姆带的孩子这方面做的不大好。有些老人不合群,孩子自然也就不能学会很好地和别人交朋友。户外还是孩子大运动发展的战场。对于老人和保姆,安全责任最重要。所以,他们不敢放手让孩子随便地跑跳。这个任务只有父母承担最合适。
7、把亲子时间变成给孩子补习的课堂
对于学龄前的孩子来说,第一是身体技能的锻炼,主要是大运动;第二是手的触觉训练,也就是精细动作;第三是语言的听力训练以及逻辑思维训练。
8、把工作上的焦虑带回家
职场妈妈白天工作很辛苦,回到家本想能喘口气。结果还没坐稳,宝宝就开始又哭又闹。其实宝宝哭闹除了具体的问题以外,找不到原因的哭闹都是为了考验、确认妈妈的爱。这一点在刚上幼儿园或者换了新环境、遭受挫折的孩子身上尤其明显。此时,如果妈妈本身疲劳加焦虑,最后就会演变成一场战争。最后宝宝受伤,妈妈自责。此乃职场妈妈最大的忌讳!
1, ablactation prematurely
Mom of field of a lot of duty is nursed because of inconvenience of time going to work, sleep in the evening nurse affect Morpheus quality again, affect then the following day quality going to work. Accordingly, can be in only darling a few months when ablactation. Actually, of such promotion to darling immunity force and parentage build very adverse.
2, give an old person darling carte blanche or baby-sitter
Office worker is tiredder, to have enough sleep, a lot of mom give an old person darling carte blanche or baby-sitter, include the time in the evening. Accordingly, some darling and mom are not close.
3, when accompanying the child cannot heart and soul
Without giving thought to how old darling, whether to accompany him in intention ground to mom very sensitive. If you heart and soul, the child will be very happy with happiness. Otherwise the child cries easily be troubled by, actually this is the protest that raises to mom.
4, try to replace close period of the day from 11 pm to 1 am with one caboodle toy
Darling is in small when especially a year old of less than, far to the interest of the article in real life outclass is right the interest of the toy. Mom of field of a lot of duty accompanies the child without time at ordinary times, want to be made up for with the toy, result child not buy it still is adhesion mom. The child is such, what he needs more is mom, see the duty field mom that be less than by day especially.
5, despise Yo knowledge
Say the child is a piece of white paper always before, whats do not understand. In last few years western Yo after the book went to China, just know former child has the secret that too much oneself develops. The calendar that their development has their oneself, sensitive period.
Be in corresponding sensitive period in, the child can repeat a thing all the time, till adroitness till. For instance his meeting reduplicative is gone to from altitude below throw a thing, can clinging ground puts a thing in past container, will answer the ground to hide a thing toward where back and forth, more its choose meeting not tire of irritatedly the dot on the ground, although some adult feel very dirty.
6, negligence accompanies the child between the close period of the day from 11 pm to 1 am of outdoors activity
Outdoors it is the base that the child learns human association, the custom of human association and principle want adult to teach the child. A lot of old people or what this respect does the child that baby-sitter brings is not quite good. Some old people should not group, child nature also cannot learn to make friend with others well. Outdoors the battlefield that still is development of child big campaign. To old person and baby-sitter, safe responsibility is the mainest. So, they dare not let go let the child run casually jump. Only parents assumes this job the most appropriate.
7, the classroom that the child turns into take lessons after school between close period of the day from 11 pm to 1 am
To the child before school age, the first be body technical ability take exercise, basically be the 2nd touch that is a hand trains big campaign; , namely the 3rd audition training that is a language and logistic thinking train delicate act; .
8, the angst that attends the work brings back the home
Duty field mom works by day very painstaking, answer this excellent wanting that can pant. The result has not sat firm, darling begins blubber. Actually darling cries be troubled by besides specific issue, look for those who be less than a reason to cry be troubled by is for the test, love that acknowledges mom. This just were going up nursery school perhaps changed the new environment, child body that suffers a setback to go up especially apparent. Right now, if mom itself exhaustion adds suspense, become a war with respect to joint performance finally. Final darling gets hurt, mom is self-condemned. This is duty field mom the biggest abstain from!