先讲讲我们家的环境及成员,爷爷奶奶与我们同住,爸爸上班很忙,我早晨7点班出门,晚上5点半到家,此刻一般由奶奶负责宝宝起居生活,管接送幼儿园,我和他爸爸晚上在家尽量陪宝宝玩耍,每晚给宝宝洗澡,带宝宝同睡。
宝宝属性格外向、活泼开朗、记性异常好,爱同小朋友玩,在同龄人中讲话数较早的,且表达较清楚,这与小的时候我和奶奶带着他,总是和他讲话,总带到外边玩耍有关系的。
在对待宝宝的问题上头,我的的宗旨是,宝宝健康成长过程中,能养成好的生活和学习习惯,情商和智商一样发展就好了,倒不是说此刻在幼儿园必须得学到什么知识的。
举例一,宝宝无理取闹时,不可心软改变立场,宝宝要什么东西时,如果是又哭又闹的话,不管这件东西是不是他很想需要的,这时候不能给他,给他的话是鼓励他,到后边哭闹成了一种武器。还比较小的时候带着宝宝到超市,看到卖糖果的摊子,赖在那里不肯走的,我坚持不买,把在那里哭闹的宝宝拎了出超市,后边还有一次,是抓到一粒糖果要往嘴巴塞,妈妈反对,说没买单不能这样貌,再到之后就不这样了,只是跟妈妈商量,买一些好不好,这个时候,买了会很高兴,不买也没很大情绪了。
举例二,以平常心对待宝宝的一些举动,反应不要过于激烈,给予适当的鼓励和引导,宝宝此刻吃饭的时候总是要喝水,好象是条件反射似的,之前吃饭过程中喝水,妈妈是反应比较大些,不让他喝,结果你越是制止他啊,他越要这样干,到之后妈妈装作没看见,他还会在喝完之后,跟我说,妈妈,你看我喝水了,目的是引起家长的注意。宝宝爱模仿大人做事,开始他奶奶很担心宝宝会磕着碰着,制止宝宝动作,起不到什么效果,反而拿着工具在客厅里头挥来挥去,之后,在他再抄起家伙时,我肯定了他,哎呀,你真棒啊,能帮奶奶干活了,宝宝听了这话,那真是太高兴了,还真象模象样的弄上一圈,然后把工具再放回原处。
举例三,如何处理好宝宝的情绪问题,只要我在家,宝宝就十分的亢奋,中午连午觉也不睡了,人家说这是宝宝表达爱的一种方式,不明白是不是宝宝在幼儿园太压抑了(我的猜想,呵呵),关于这一点,我还真有点不知所措,有时候疯得太厉害了,我就会打宝宝的小屁股,好象没什么效果哟,要试图引导宝宝,表达爱的方式不只停留在这一种。有时候,宝宝实在顽劣,弄得你火冒三丈。若没有及时控制住,就可能口不择言地呵斥孩子,甚至噼里啪啦地揍他一顿。结果,不仅仅破坏了亲子关系,也可能给宝宝幼小的心灵留下创伤。
察觉到盛怒来临的迹象后,最有效的方法是让家人带走宝宝,或自我离开“事发之地”,然后,
(1)做10次以上深而长的呼吸;
(2)拉紧,然后放松全身的肌肉数次;
(3)出外散步10分钟;
(4)对自我说“我会坚持冷静”,然后回想过去自我以往表现得很冷静时的情景,或者回忆一段简便开心的时光。
看到父母能够控制自我不乱发脾气,这对宝宝是很好的榜样教育。家长也能够把这种冷静技巧教给宝宝,让他从小就学会做情绪的主人。
教育孩子这门功课说起来简单,做起来可没那么容易,相信我的爸爸妈妈都身有体会。既想让孩子欢乐健康的成长又要丰富孩子各种各样的知识,这并非是件容易事。其实孩子有本事完成他们自我的事,只可是需要时间,相信他们给他们鼓励和勇气,只要我们共同努力,结果会让我们出忽意料。
哦,忘了件十分重要的心得—我们自我的虚荣心。好多事看起来是为了孩子好,其实我们不能否认自我的虚荣心时时在作怪,只要我们放下这个缺点,和孩子一齐共同努力,相信我们的未来更完美更灿烂。
Tell the environment that discusses our home and member first, grandfather grandma and we live together, father goes to work very busy, my morning the class went out at 7 o'clock, arrived home partly at 5 o'clock in the evening, be in charge of life of baby daily life by the grandma commonly at the moment, the canal is received send nursery school, I and his father accompany darling play as far as possible in the home in the evening, bathe to darling every night, take darling to sleep together.
Lively and extroversion of darling property division, optimistic, memory is unusually good, love plays with the child, counting prior with the speech in age person, and expression is clearer, this and small when I and grandma are taking him, always speak with him, total belt goes to what amuse oneself matters outside.
In the problem aspect that handles darling, my the tenet is, in darling health growing process, nurturance lives well and can learn a habit, it is good that affection develops like business and intelligence quotient, not be to say to must get those who acquire what knowledge in nursery school at the moment.
Citing one, when darling willfully make a trouble, footing of not satisfying soft change, when darling wants what thing, if be blubber word, no matter he wants to need this thing very much, cannot give him at that time, the word that gives him is to encourage him, to behind cry made a kind of weapon. Smaller when taking darling to go to a supermarket, see the vendor's stand that sells candy, go back on his word not to agree over, I insist to be not bought, cry over the baby that do carried city of favorable balance of trade, return behind once, it is to catch a candy to want to fill in toward mouth, mom objects, say to did not buy sheet cannot such appearance, after arriving again not such, just follow mom to discuss, buy a few good, this moment, bought the meeting is very glad, do not buy also do not have very big mood.
Citing 2, treat a few activity of darling with common heart, reaction does not want too intense, give proper encouragement and guide, water always should be drunk when darling has a meal at the moment, seeming is a condition like reflection, water is drunk in the process having a meal before, mom is somes response is bigger, do not let him drink, as a result you check the more he ah, he should work so more, after arriving, mom pretends to did not see, after he still can be being drunk, say with me, mom, you see me drink water, the purpose is the attention that causes the parent. Darling loves to imitate adult to work, begin his grandma to fear meeting knock wears darling very much touching, check darling movement, what effect is less than since, taking a tool to come in brandish of sitting room within instead brandish goes, later, when he takes fellow again, I affirmed him, alas, your dishy, can help a grandma work, darling listened this word, that is too glad really, still resemble the circuit on the lane of picture appearance really, next the tool again replace is in formerly.
Citing 3, if why handle the mood issue of good darling, want me to be in the home only, darling very excited, also did not sleep even lie-down midday, the someone says this is a kind of way that darling expression loves, do not understand darling is in nursery school is too depressive (my guess, ah breathe out) , about this, I still am at a loss a bit really, occasionally mad too fierce, I can hit the small bottom of darling, be like effect of it doesn't matter oh, want to try to guide darling, the kind that expresses love keeps a kind in this not merely. Occasionally, darling is honest dense bad, do your fly into a rage. If do not have seasonable control to live, likely mouth not choose character ground berates the child, even the bang in Pi the ground beats him. Result, destroyed parentage not just, leave scar possibly also to the heart with little baby.
After perceiving the sign that comes to choler, the most effective method is to let family take away darling, or ego leaves " the ground of the accident " , next,
(1) does above is deep and long breath; 10 times
(2) is taut, the muscle that loosens the whole body next counts second;
(3) goes out outside take a walk 10 minutes;
(4) says to ego " I can hold to sober " , think back to next the scene when past ego is behaved very calmly before, perhaps recall a paragraph of handy and happy time.
See parents can control ego not to get angry in disorder, this is very good example education to darling. The parent also can teach darling this kind of sober skill, let him learn to do the host of the mood as a child.
This homework says educational child simple, do it is so easy to can be done not have, the father mother that believes me has experience personally. Think those who make child joy healthy to grow to want to abound the child's various knowledge again already, this is not is an easy thing. Actually the child has skill to complete the work of their ego, can be need time only, believe they encourage He Yong to enrage to them, want our joint efforts only, the result can let us go out ignore expect.
Oh, forgot a very important result, the vanity of our ego. A lot of thing is for the child it seems that good, the vanity that actually we cannot deny ego is in constantly do mischief, want us to put down this defect only, with the child simultaneously joint efforts, the future that believes us is more perfect brighter.