人最内心的防线？英文双语对照

我们有身体防线、生理防线、心理防线、情绪防线、能量防线、金钱防线、友谊防线……太多的防线与自我的底线是被我们所默视的，因为没有任何的教育教导我们什么是防线与底线，大多数的人也因为害怕冲突的关系，不敢去看见自己真实的防线与底线在哪里。

带大家玩了一些好玩的游戏，从游戏中我们看见了自己真实的防线距离，也了解到原来每个人的自我防线都是不一样的呢！

例如你跟陌生人的距离一定比跟亲爱的家人好友还要远；你跟亲密爱人的距离一定比跟陌生男子的距离还要亲近许多。从经验中我发现，许多看起来很nice、很亲切，甚至到烂好人境界的人（包含我曾经也是），内在的原则跟规矩其实是最多的。 怎么说呢？ 因为这种人，大多是因为不敢拒绝、或是为了要得到好人卡，所以会隐藏自己的防线。 每一次的隐忍，就会扩大自己的防线，直到忍无可忍到情绪防线被整个冲破之后，就会夹带愤怒的做出、说出伤害他人但也伤害了自己的状况。

追根究柢的去发掘自己内在的阴影是什么，然后负责任的去为自己的人生找出内在的根源，并寻求疗愈及宽恕。这样才不会一而再再而三的招惹同样的事情发生在生活之中，搞得自己的身心都疲累不堪。

关于金钱底线，最常见到的状况是，好朋友跟你借钱，你不好意思拒绝，于是基于“义气”，所以很阿莎力就掏了腰包。因为基于“友谊”，所以连借据都不敢写，准备用“口”说，来见证这段伟大的友谊。 不久后，每每看到这位跟你借钱的朋友都活得快乐自在，甚至连跟你提还钱的意思都没有，然后自己就会暗暗的想：“他是不是忘记了”？ 要不要提醒他一下？但是连提醒的勇气都没有。明明自己是债权人，却搞得自己很像是被讨债一样的孬种。

但大多数的情节最后的桥段都是来到，朋友死皮赖脸装死不认帐，或是避不见面，自己噢得要死，却因损失一笔钱就得缩衣节食、勒紧裤带，失去一段友谊，人财两失，又在心中烙下一段阴影，从此从“没底线”的人，摇身一变变成防护墙。

真是得不偿失（摇头中），那我们为何要让自己下场变得那么惨之后，才来变本加厉的愤世嫉俗呢？ 其实在他人跟我们借钱的当下，我们早已有强烈的直觉告诉我们，该不该借！ 但是头脑的评估判断，以及为了要顾及人情世故，会掩盖掉我们真正的内在指引。 唯一的准则是，当要准备借出去时，去静心感觉心里“平不平安”。

去算出当朋友跟你借钱时，多少的代价是你付得起的，甚至这笔钱朋友无法还你，你都不会觉得心疼，也不会影响到自己生

We have body line of defence, physiology line of defence, psychology line of defence, mood line of defence, energy defense line, money line of defence, friendship defense line... the bottom line of too much line of defence and ego is by us place silent inspects, because do not have any our what education teachs is line of defence and bottom line, most person also concerns because of what fear to conflict, where are the line of defence that dare not see oneself are true and bottom line.

Took everybody to play a few interesting game, from inside game we saw our real line of defense is apart from, the ego defense line that also knows original everybody is different!

For example your distance with stranger is certain even further than following dear family good friend; You compare the distance that follows new man to be close to even certainly with the distance of close sweetheart a lot of. From inside experience I discover, a lot of looking very very Nice, kind, arrive even the person of state of sodden good person (including me also once was) , underlying principle follows rule is most actually. How to say? Because of this kind of person, because dare not refuse,be mostly, or it is to want to get good person gets stuck, can obscure oneself defense line so. Of every time bear, with respect to the line of defence that can enlarge oneself, until be driven beyond forbearance to mood line of defence by whole after breaking through, make with respect to what meeting notes smuggled into an examination hall annoys, speak harm other but the state that also harmed oneself.

Chase after probe into Di go disentombing what is oneself immanent shadow, the goes be oneself life that bears the blame next locates immanent root, seek cure to reach forgiveness more. Such ability won't one and again again and the thing with the same court of 3 happens in the life, do oneself body and mind is extremely tiredly.

About monetary bottom line, the commonnest the state that reach is, the good friend lends money with you, you feel embarrassed refuse, be based on then " personal loyalty " , so very Ashali drew out pocket. Because be based on " friendship " , connect receipt for a loan to dare be not written so, preparation is used " mouth " say, will witness this paragraph of great friendship. Before long hind, the friend that often sees this lends money with you lives joy is comfortably, carry the meaning that returns money to be done not have with you repeatedly even, next oneself meet secretly want: "Did he forget " ? Should remind him? But the courage that reminds repeatedly is done not have. Obviously oneself are creditor, do however oneself very resembling is the coward like be being demanded repayment.

But the bridge with most final clue paragraph it is to come, friend brazen-faced possum does not admit, or it is to avoid do not meet, oneself must want dead Oh, have to shrink because of loss brushstroke money however the garment is on a diet, tighten belt, lose a paragraph of friendship, person money two break, leave a paragraph of shadow in the bake in a pan in the heart again, from now on from " do not have a bottom line " person, suddenly change one's identity becomes prevent counterfort.

It is to the loss outweights the gain really (in shaking one's head) , after why should we let him end become so miserable then, is what will just become aggravated cynical? Borrow the instantly of money with us in other actually, we have intense intuition to tell us already, should borrow! But the assessment of brains is judged, and to want attend to the way of the world, can mask us true immanent and how-to. Only standard is, when wanting to prepare to lend, go in heart of static heart feeling " smooth not restful " .

Go when cipher out lends money with you when the friend, the cost of how many is your Fu Deqi, even this Qian Pengyou cannot be returned you, you won't feel to feel distressed, also won't affect oneself to be born