是自私的爱情还是爱情的自私？英文双语对照

爱情是自私的，是因为一团感觉有自私的属性，比如其中有情结，有性欲这个占有的排他性。放大了自私属性在一团感觉中的占比，就是自私的爱情；缩小了自私属性的占比而有了为了对方之担当或付出之爱情，才称得上神圣的爱情！

爱情是一团感觉，对方的形象气质、语言谈吐、学识阅历、能力特点、条件环境等等，是一团综合感觉集群带来的情绪潮即为爱情。这也决定了不同的人学识和心智及社会经历不同，彼此的一团感觉总值有着存量的差异，也就是说甲的一团感觉与乙的一团感觉是不同的。

爱情是一团感觉，起于颜值(对于一般人，特别是颜值控而言)，赏于特点和能力，敬于才华，合于个性(同步或互补)，久于信任和良心，安于人品，和谐于彼此包容…

一团感觉的核心点在于“情结”。比如一个女孩的成长经历了漫长的穷苦日子，就会有物质情结，一旦遇上“富人”那怕大二十岁，也烟灭不了动心的可能。一个女孩有歌唱情结，遇上会唱歌的小伙就会动心，即使无颜值或者是父辈年龄，动心也在所难免…

这里就有了情结对接的问题，当有条件的一方A找的对象B有物质情结，并且A的自我情结足以在B的身上体现时，两个人的相爱就会过得很幸福，比如，一个富二代女孩特别爱听歌，于是有了情声情结，遇上了一个特别会唱歌的帅哥，只是他带自偏远的穷山村，由于女孩性子直敢爱敢恨，有胆量反追男，于是两个人走到了一起…这也是情结互补，结合才协调。

只当既有的情结消退时，才会有物质条件带来的落差影响，或者是有了新的情结到来，与既有的情结有交集有冲突时，既有的爱情(一团感觉)会因为情结的漂移，而有了重新洗牌…

事实上，情结作为人个性的一部分，是不容易改变的。致导情结妥协的，只有人的思想，因为思想理念的形成来自于长期生活的积淀，是成长阅历见识的总聚集，是理性的凝聚，而情结只是感性的聚焦点，情结当然不能与思想抗衡…

爱情是一团感觉，一团感觉中，有部分的变量和另一部分的不变量(也是稳定量)，决定了爱情总体是个变量…一团感觉的核心点是情结，如果条件好的一方其情结中，没有了物质概念，并且这个情结有着长期的稳固性，那么两个人的长期互动中，就不会有条件差别带来的节外生技或矛盾冲突，加之彼此的情结互补满足而有了心心相印，形成了稳定量，远远大于可变量时，爱情是持久的，也是幸福的！

当有条件的一方个人情结参杂着物质因素时，条件的落差终久会形成新的情结，也会构成矛盾的起点，这个时候，爱情已经退去，彼此在一起就会承受到内心的煎熬，是不幸福的！

19年10月14日

Love is selfish, because posse feels the property that has selfishness,be, have complex among them for instance, sexual is about to occupy some exclusiveness this. Magnified selfish attribute is in what posse feels medium to occupy than, it is selfish love; Narrowed of selfish attribute occupy compare and had the take on or gives love for the other side, just say to go up divine love!

Love is posse feeling, environment of characteristic of experience of style of conversation of the figure temperament of the other side, language, knowledge, ability, condition is waited a moment, it is the mood tide that posse feels integratedly to group is brought is love namely. This also decided different person knowledge and intelligence and social experience are different, each other posse feels total value is having the difference that puts an amount, that is to say the posse feeling of the posse feeling of armour and second is different.

Love is posse feeling, result colour is worth (to average person, especially Yan Zhi accuses and character) , admire at characteristic and ability, respect Yu Caihua, close at individual character (synchronism or complementary) , long at accredit and conscience, be content with bearing, harmony includes at each other...

The core drop that posse feels depends on " complex " . Grow than what be like a girl experienced long poverty-stricken time, can have corporeal complex, once be met " wealthy person " that is afraid of big 20 years old, also smoke cannot destroy the likelihood that one's mind disturbed. A girl has vocal complex, meet groups what can sing is small to be able to his mind disturbed, although do not have Yan Zhi or father generation age, one's mind disturbed also unavoidable...

Here had the problem of complex butt joint, the object B that searchs when conditional one party A has corporeal complex, when and the ego complex enough of A is on the body of B be being reflected, of two people love each other to had been met very happily, for instance, rich 2 acting girls love to hear a song particularly, had feeling then acoustical complex, met the handsome young man that a special meeting sings, it is his belt only from out-of-the-way poor village, because girl strength dare love to dare be hated continuously, courage is chased after instead male, then two people went one case... this also is complex complementary, union just is coordinated.

Become only already when some complex subsidise, ability can have the fall effect that corporeal condition brings, perhaps had new complex arrival, with already when some complex have be mixed to have conflict, already some love (posse feels) the meeting because the drift of complex, and had reshuffle...

In fact, complex regards a person as the one part of individual character, be not easy change. Send those who guide complex compromises, have the person's idea only, because the formation of thought concept comes from,accumulate at what live for a long time, be growing experience experience is total gather, it is rational agglomeration, and the focusing dot that complex is sensibility only, complex cannot contend with the thought of course...

Love is posse feeling, posse feels medium, the variable that has a share and the invariant of another part (also be steady volume) , deciding love is overall is a variable... the core drop that posse feels is complex, if the condition is good a its complex is medium, did not have corporeal concept, and this complex is having long-term firm sex, so of two people in interacting for a long time, ability or contradictory conflict are born outside the red-letter day that brings with respect to won't conditional difference, together with each other complex is complementary and contented and had have mutual affinity, formed steady volume, when be more than alterable quantity far, love is abiding, also be happy!

Enter miscellaneous corporeal factor when complex of conditional one party individual when, fall eventually of the condition can form new complex, also can make contradictory starting point, this moment, love already retire, each other can bear together of the heart suffer, it is not happy!

19 years on October 14