儿童性教育的正确方式？英文双语对照

性本是一种自然现象，生理现象，然而却有不少人一听到“性”这个字，眼睛就睁大了，耳朵也竖起来了，在这些人的脑海中，总把性和黄色、淫秽、低级、下流联系在一起。 

在家庭中，做父母的对子女闭口不谈性教育，夫妻之间对性问题也是讳莫如深、羞于启齿。大量的事实证明，封闭性教育是有弊而无益的。对青春期的孩子不谈性问题，不进行性教育，难道他们就不想，就不学了吗？

不，他们会悄悄地学，会因为朦胧的性意识和对性知识缺乏正确认识而走入歧途。 

社会调查表明，父母应是孩子性教育的启蒙老师，父母的观念会深刻地影响孩子。因此在性教育中，做父母的本身首先应加强性知识和性道德的学习，对性及性教育应有一个正确的认识。 

如果父母感觉性是不洁的，对孩子所问的有关性的问题不但不正确回答，反而斥责他们，孩子自然就会感到性是神秘的、不洁的。相反，如果父母感觉性是美好的，如同日出日落，月亏月圆一样自然，那么孩子对性问题也会有正确的概念。 

当孩子进入青春期后，随着他们性意识的觉醒，应及时进行性知识和性道德教育，父母要选择适当的语言和适当的时机告诉他们：由于内分泌系统的成熟，性激素产生过多，少男少女开始出现第二性特征。 

男孩子会长胡须，声音变粗，阴茎，睾丸增大，并出现遗精等生理变化；女孩子乳房隆起，声音变细并伴有月经来潮，对男孩的遗精和女孩的月经初潮，应告诉他们这是一种正常的生理现象，是进入青春期的标志。 

父母对性的问题不必羞羞答答，遮遮掩掩，应平和地和孩子谈论它，交给孩子书本的知识，解答孩子的疑问，特别是引导青春期的孩子正确认识它，以增强孩子对性犯罪的免疫力，避免走入歧途。 

那么，父母应如何正确对孩子进行性教育呢？

1、不要模糊孩子的性别意识

孩子出生后，无论性别如何，在取名、着装、生活用品的选择上都不应该混淆，以免孩子从小对自己和他人形成性朦胧意识，从而影响孩子的性取向。 

期望孩子是父母所盼求的性别，或双亲偏爱男孩或女孩，或有意地把女孩扮男装或将男孩扮女装，或有意地把女孩扮男装或将男孩扮女装，均会影响孩子的性自认，导致后来性格和行为上的改变。

 2、性教育贯穿在日常生活中

当孩子能听懂言语时，就应把性教育贯穿在日常生活中，如在洗澡、着装、修整发型及玩具选择等方面要有明确的性别区分；还可以通过书报、画册、影视、讲故事等方法去引导孩子观察动物、植物的生长和繁殖，使孩子对生殖产生一种自然的认识，从而使他们接受大自然，热爱人类，认识生命本质，使性自认得以完成。

 3、引导孩子认识自己的身体

自由探索自己的身体是健康性教育的良好开端。父母在家庭生活中，要选择适当时机，如洗澡、睡觉前等，很自然地让孩子认识自己的身体。尤其是要孩子认识到生殖器官与人体其他器官一样并不神秘，而且引导孩子要保持自体清洁，养成良好的卫生习惯。 

你可以在适当的时机坐下来跟孩子好好的谈谈，告诉孩子身体是属于自己的，每个人都有权利保持自己的隐私，如果有人用很奇怪或者不舒服的方法去触碰孩子的身体的话，应该叫那个人立刻停止并且要尽快告诉父母。

 4、正面回答孩子有关性方面的疑问

当孩子提出有关性方面的疑问时，父母不应该回避，宜用孩子能够理解和接受的言语和方式予以解答，使孩子的好奇心和求知欲得到解决和满足。 

当然，父母也可以找一些性教育方面的科普书籍或者视频交予孩子学习，并且就孩子学习中的疑问，你应该用一种坦诚的态度与孩子沟通对话，这样的话孩子很快能从你的回答中得到满足。 

The gender is a kind of natural phenomenon originally, physiology phenomenon, however however many people are heard " quality " this word, the eye is opened big, ear is perpendicular also rose, in the brain of these people, always contact gender and yellow, bawdy, elementary, indelicacy together.

In the family, the two pairs daughter that does father and mother shuts a mouth not to talk about a gender to teach, to the gender the problem also is tine of Yu Qi of closely guard a secret, be ashamed between husband and wife. Many fact proves, close sexual education is have disadvantage and profitless. Do not talk about sexual problem to adolescent child, do not undertake the gender is taught, they do not think, did not learn?

Not, they can learn stealthily, because hazy sexual consciousness is mixed,can be opposite sexual knowledge lacks proper understanding and go astray.

Social investigation makes clear, parents should be the illuminative teacher that child sex teachs, parental idea affects the child can deeply. Because this is in sexual education, the itself that does father and mother should strengthen the study of sexual knowledge and sexual morality above all, due to gender and sexual education a proper understanding.

If parental sentience is feculent, the problem of the concerned sex that asks to child place not only incorrect answer, rebuke instead they, child nature can feel the gender is mystery, feculent. Contrary, if parental sentience is good, as sunrise sunset, wane month circle is euqally natural, so the child also can have right idea to sexual problem.

After the child enters adolescence, as the arousal of their sex consciousness, answer to undertake sexual knowledge and sexual morality are taught in time, parents should choose proper language and opportune opportune moment to tell them: As a result of the maturity of internal system, sex hormone generation is overmuch, little male girl begins occurrence secondary feature.

Boy chairman beard, sound coarsens, the penis, spermary increases, appear the physiology such as seminal emission changes; Girl breast apophysis, sound attenuate accompanies menstruate to come wet, to the menstrual menarche of the boy's seminal emission and girl, should tell them this is a kind of normal physiology phenomenon, it is the symbol that enters adolescence.

Parents is right sexual problem need not bashful, block cloak attack by surprise, should gentle the ground and child talk about it, give the knowledge of child book, solve the child's doubt, the child that guides adolescence especially knows it correctly, in order to enhance the immune power that the child commits a crime to the gender, avoid go astray.

So, how should parents undertake to the child the gender is taught correctly?

1, the sexual consciousness of not ambiguous child

After the child is born, no matter sexual distinction how, in name, move on the choice of outfit, articles for daily use not should promiscuous, lest the child is opposite as a child,oneself and other form a gender hazy consciousness, affect sexual orientaton of the child thereby.

Expectation child is the sexual distinction that parental place longs for to beg, or parents preference boy or girl, or play the part of men's clothing or play the part of the girl of purpose the boy female outfit, or play the part of men's clothing or play the part of the girl of purpose the boy female outfit, the sex that all can affect the child is avowed, bring about disposition is mixed later the change on behavior.

 2, sexual education is perforative in daily life

When the child can understand utterance, should teach the gender perforative in daily life, if bathing, move the respect such as hairstyle of outfit, nap and toy choice should have clear sexual distinction divisional; Still can pass the method such as books and newspaper, an album of paintings, movie and TV, taletelling to guide the child to observation animal, floral grows and breed, make child opposite breed produces a kind of natural understanding, make they accept nature thereby, have deep love for the mankind, know life essence, make a gender avowed in order to finish.

 3, the body that guides child him understanding

The body that explores oneself freely is healthy sex education is good and germinant. Parents is in domesticity, want to choose opportune opportune moment, if bathe, before sleeping, wait, very the body that naturally invites the child to know his. Want the child to realise genital official and human body are other especially the organ is same not mysterious, and guide the child to want to maintain from body cleanness, the sanitation with good nurturance is used to.

You can sit to follow the child in opportune opportune moment well talk, telling child body belong to him, everybody has the right to preserve his privacy, if somebody is used very strange uncomfortable perhaps method goes the word of the body of child of lay a finger on, should call that to the individual stops immediately and should tell father and mother as soon as possible.

 4, the doubt of respect of concerned sex of openly answer child

When the child puts forward to concern the question of sexual respect, parents not should evasive, the utterance that appropriate can understand with the child and accepts and means give solve, make the child's curiosity is mixed curious be about to get solve and be satisfactioned.

Of course, the popular science book that parents also can look for a few sexes to teach a respect or video is handed in grant child learning, and study medium question with respect to the child, you should communicate a dialog with a kind of straight-out manner and child, such word child can get very quickly satisfaction from inside your answer.