1.《正面管教》
作者:简·尼尔森,美国杰出的心理学家和教育家,美国正面管教协会创始人。
推荐理由:
养孩子是人生头等大事,可是要怎么教育孩子既管用又不会伤害到他呢?
那就不得不说到《正面管教》这本书了,正面管教是一种既不惩罚孩子也不骄纵孩子的管教方法。
本书用阿德勒心理学原理来解释孩子不良行为背后的原因,并提出一个新的理念“最惹人讨厌的孩子,往往是最需要爱的孩子”。这是因为孩子的不良行为背后有其错误的观念和行为目的,但孩子意识不到,需要大人去识别才能帮助孩子改变。
本书关注的是教给孩子要做什么,关注问题的解决,孩子在整个过程中是积极的参与者,而不是被动的接受者。
2.《你就是孩子最好的玩具》
作者:金伯莉·布雷恩,最早提出“情感引导式教育”的儿童教育专家,注册家庭与儿童心理治疗师,同时也是两个孩子的母亲。她经常在加州大学洛杉矶分校开办早期儿童大脑发育和正面管教策略方面的讲座,并担任美国健康和人文服务部下属的 SAMHSA 分支发起的一项早期儿童心理健康促进活动的社会推广总监。
推荐理由:
你知道吗?比起玩具和电视,孩子最需要的是你。他们真正看重的是和你在一起的快乐时光,需要被重视,需要和父母单独相处而不被打扰的时间,需要和父母建立一生的亲密关系!
而控制、放任、贿赂、威胁都是父母们常用的方法。这些不同类型的教育方法可能导致孩子用错的方式来表达情感和进行沟通,从而无法建立起父母与孩子的亲密关系,孩子也就无法得到家庭关系所带来的归属感和安全感。
本书提出的情感引导的教育方法更加充满关爱,情感引导型父母会把这些棘手的情况当成了解孩子内心世界的好机会,并且对孩子的情绪给予同情和理解,在沟通中增进亲子关系,进而提高孩子的情商和沟通能力,为他们将来的成长打下最有益的基础。
3.《如何说孩子才肯学》
作者:阿黛尔·法伯,纽约大学教育学硕士,曾在纽约市高中任教8年,国际著名亲子沟通专家。伊莱恩·玛兹丽施,专业画家和作曲家,国际著名亲子沟通专家。两位作者均师从于著名儿童心理学家海姆·吉诺特博士,并已被收录于美国名人录。
推荐理由:
这是一本被美国《儿童》杂志评为“家庭教育年度最佳图书”,是全球最畅销的家教书之一,改变了无数个家庭的相处模式。
本书作者在激励孩子进行自我监督、自我约束和热爱学习方面,给出了一套切实可行的方法
1. " openly certainly "
Author: Jane Nielsen, the United States' crackajack psychologist and educationist, author of association of American front certainly.
Recommend reason:
Raising the child is important matter of life first class, but want how to teach the child to be in charge of already to but want how to teach the child to be in charge of already,use won't harm him again?
That must respecting " openly certainly " this book, openly certainly is child of penalty of a kind of both neither the certainly method of not arrogant and wilful also child.
This book straps psychological principle to explain the child is undesirable with A heart the reason of behavior backside, offer a new concept " the most provoking disgusting child, often be the child that needs love most " . Because bad behavior backside of the child has its wrong idea and behavior objective,this is, but child consciousness does not arrive, need adult goes identifying ability to help the child change.
What this book pays close attention to is to teach the child to want what to do, pay close attention to the settlement of the problem, the child is active participator in whole process, is not the passive person that accept.
2. " you are the child's best toy "
Author: Jinbaili Buleien, put forward the earliest " affection guiding type is taught " children teachs an expert, register family and children psychotherapy division, also be the mother of two children at the same time. She often divides school open in California university los angeles the lecture of development of inchoate children cerebra and side of openly certainly strategy, mental health of a when the SAMHSA branch that holds the position of American health and subordinate of humanitarian service ministry initiates inchoate children promotes mobile society to popularize chief inspector.
Recommend reason:
Do you know? Compared with toy and TV, what the child needs most is you. What they value truly is the happy days that is together with you, need to be taken seriously, need the time that get along alone with parents and is not disturbed, need and parents build the affinity of lifetime!
And control, indulge, bribery, menace is parents' commonly used method. The kind that the educational method of these different types may cause the child to use a fault will convey affection and undertake communication, cannot build the affinity of a parents and child thereby, the attributive feeling that the child also cannot get domestic concern place is brought and safety feel.
The educational method that the feeling that this book offers guides more be full of care, affection guiding parents can regard these stubborn cases as the main chance that knows child heart world, and be opposite understand, promotional in communicate parentage, business mixes the condition that improves the child then communication ability, become those who come the most beneficial basis below swat for them.
3. " how to say the child just agrees to learn "
Author: A Daier Fabai, new York campus learns a Master, ever taught 8 years in Newyork city high school, world-famous close child communication expert. Yilaien Macili is applied, professional painter and composer, world-famous close child communication expert. Two authors all master from at famous children psychologist Dr. Haimu Jinuote, already was collected at American blue book.
Recommend reason:
This is by the United States " children " the magazine is judged for " domestic education year is optimal books " , it is one of domestic teach with best-selling whole world, changed countless families get along mode.
This book author undertakes in incentive child ego is supervised, ego is restrained and have deep love for study respect, gave out a practical method